Gender Equality: What Women Are Really Asking Of Men

67ad5b68854cc05435c9fc72b42a1626-originaIt’s Not What Many Men Think 
 
Image courtesy of William Stitt.

By J.G. Boccella. Most men are not women’s rights activists. Most men are not academics who study gender equity full-time. Neither are most men hateful sexists. There are millions of men who fall somewhere in the middle of this spectrum. And somewhere in the middle of this middle is a group I call the “hidden demographic.”
 
The hidden demographic comprises men who are not oblivious. They are not in denial about the reality of sexism and gender disparities. They are actually smart, thoughtful men from all walks of life. Unfortunately, these men are largely unengaged in the conversation about gender equity and men supporting women’s leadership. This represents a huge missed opportunity. 
  
To effect change and engage men, we need the right message, delivered to the right audience—the hidden demographic.

What Women Are Really Asking of Men  
Underneath the unspoken power struggle between men and women is men’s “fear of the takeover”—the zero-sum game. But in reality, women just want the same access and opportunity that men have always had. (Straight, able-bodied, white men, that is.)
 
Women are not asking men to give up their manhood in order to support women leaders. Rather, they are asking for men to bring their whole selves to work so that they can show up, contribute, listen, and collaborate.
 
Women don't want men to feel bad about being men. That's not the point. It's not just about teaching men not to be sexist and oblivious. Yes, all men have more to learn on this topic. And, yes, women want men to be respectful. But they are not asking men to be passive and silent. 
 
Women leaders want men to be strong, but in a different way. They want men to be capable, responsible, accountable, flexible, creative, tenacious, persistent, inspiring, and collaborative. They don't want men to shut down, shut up, and be passive. They want us to be active.
 
Of course, women, first and foremost, want to feel respected and heard. They want to be paid the same wages for the same work. This should all go without saying. Beyond these baseline criteria, women want men to show up honestly, sincerely, and authentically—warts and all. Men can do this and still be strong.
 
Just because a woman demands respect does not mean she objects to being challenged intellectually. Just because she wants a voice and a seat at the table doesn’t mean she wants to silence men. And just because a woman wants to lead doesn’t mean she wants men to step aside. All of this is to say that what women really want from men is not for them to give up their power—women want men to use their strength
 
The Invitation: What's Possible?  
When talking about these ideas, I always go back to the analogy of Habitat for Humanity. It's the idea of building something awesome together with like-minded people.
 
This is the essence of the invitation to men in the hidden demographic: bring your strength so we can build something together. 
 
So what would it look like if literally millions of men took up the invitation to bring their strength to women?
 
When men feel strong and secure, and when they really know that women aren’t trying to take away their power, then they can let go of the power struggle. Imagine the energy that could be freed up! Men can bring that power to support women leaders, co-leading and co-creating with them. 
 
Women, imagine what it would be like if you went in to work tomorrow and there were not just one or two, but many men who were eager to follow your lead, secure in their sense of self-worth and not threatened by your power. How would that change your experience?
 
Men, I can guarantee you this: If you take up this invitation to bring your strength, work with amazing women leaders, learn from them, and share your knowledge and power with them, then you will be welcomed, appreciated, and enriched—and ultimately, you will be participating a quantum leap forward that will have impact for generations to come. 
 
It would be a sea change.
 
And, the thing is, it’s actually possible.
 
3af2476f28fa35184c5f22b8420d4e0f-originaCo-Founder of FierceWomen, and author of Bring Your Strength, J.G. Boccella is an artist, musician, keynote speaker, corporate trainer, and social change catalyst with over 15 years of experience at the nexus of arts, education, and advocacy. J.G. holds a bachelor's degree from Brown University and a master's degree in education from Harvard. He is a recipient of the YWCA Pittsburgh Racial Justice in the Arts Award and has appeared at an diverse array of organizations including The Consortium for Public Education, The CORO Center for Leadership, The Mayor’s Council on Youth, Presidential Classroom, universities, corporations, high schools, churches, as well as on radio and television. He can be reached at BringYourStrength.com.
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Is what men and women want from a professional perspective really that different? I think we have more similarities than differences and as is often said - focus on what we have in common rather that what may be different is likely to lead to better outcomes for all.
  • Posted Thu 09 Nov 2017 10:51 AM EST
Uday Bose‍, seeing similarity is definitely important, especially when we've been taught that "men are from Mars and women are from Venus," so to speak.

The danger, however, is focusing on sameness to the exclusion of difference. To quote Bill Proudman‍, "In the US, many have been indoctrinated with the concepts of colorblindness and meritocracy. We are taught instead to focus on sameness. While the intent can be positive—to see each person on his or her own merit—those who are different must then attempt to fit into another’s world. Many men are oblivious to this because they have been taught to look only for sameness. 'I don’t see skin color or gender, I treat everyone the same' is one of the ways this can show itself, or 'I can do anything if I work hard and so can you.'"

You can read more here: http://onthemarc.org/blogs/22/256
  • Posted Thu 09 Nov 2017 01:23 PM EST
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Our History
Ningbing Electronic Technology CO., LTD,As a factory-based exporter of Smart phone and Tablet accessories from China. Adhering to good business ethics, we are orientating ourselves as a serious and reliable partner for all customers.
Backed by our own ISO qualified factory, we are dedicated to providing clients complete and satisfactory solutions for mobile phones. Our main products now include mobile phone leather cases,TPU cases,silicon cases and PC cases. OEM and ODM are available, we are able to fill all urgent deliveries.
Operating according to the philosophy of "Working towards partnership, development together with customers", we are wholly aware that we can only grow if clients are satisfied with us. Accordingly, we strive to meet buyers' expectations by providing high quality products, competitive prices and effective service. Meanwhile, we are continually extending our range in order to help customers maintain their competitive advantage in the heated market.

Our Factory
The factory has 4 floors with 2000m² per floor ,150 people.
The workers produce mold and injection molding on the first floor,the tablet covers are made and assembled on the second floor, the phone cases are produced on third floor ,laser cutting are on the fourth floor.

Our Product
cell phone accessories
tablet pc accessories
Tempered glass screen protector
selfie stick
phone holder
fidget spinner


Product Application
Mobile communication equipment


Production Equipment
Injection molding machine 15
Hydraulic press 10
mold equipment 2


Production Market
We have customers from both domestic market and oversea market. Amy Sales managers can speak fluent English for good communication. Our main sales market:
North America 15.00%
Southern Europe 25.00%


Our service
Besides our existing molded products, also can produce  products according to the drawings or samples from your.We control the product quality critically for every step during. We offer technical support that is second to none. …                                    huawei watch steel
website:http://www.ningbingcases.com/
  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:16 PM EST
Cixi Cidong Instrument Co.,LTD.Founded in 1985.


We are the manufacture and have already applied ourselves into producing and exporting the water meter and accessories for over 30 years.


The size of our water meter is from 15mm to 600mm(1/2'' to 24'').We have already got the CE,GOST.ISO 4064 AND ISO 9001 certificates and We will continue to focusing on improving our technology and production,so that we can be more professional in this field.Nowadays we have already achieved our success in many regions and countries,like the Eastern.


Europe,Western Europe ,Mid East and South Asia.Pulse Volumetric Water Meter suppliers
website:http://www.ningbo-watermeter.com/
website2:http://www.youixin-watermeter.com/
  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:16 PM EST
As one of the leading high quality of roll bond evaporator for wine cabinet manufacturers in China, Ningzheng Aluminum warmly welcomes you to buy and wholesale our quality products made in China. We now have many products in stock. Welcome to get the free sample with us. And the price and quotation consultation are also available.
As one of the leading aluminium refrigerator/ice box/ water dispenser evaporator manufacturers in China, Ningzheng Aluminum warmly welcomes you to buy and wholesale our quality products made in China. We now have many products in stock. Welcome to get the free sample with us. And the price and quotation consultation are also available.
Raw material
(Al plate)Al plate: the thickness of finished product is 1.1-2.0mm
The thickness of raw Al plate:1.7-2.15mm

Application
refrigeration parts
Structure
Double side roll bond evaporator
Single side roll bond evaporator
Part single side roll bond evaporator
Key processpreparing materials – cleaning – printing – rolling – annealing - blowing up – punching –folding and sharpening –adding the capillary – assemble welding – leakage testing –  cleaning and drying – coating - inspection – packing.
Performance

(1) Surface treated with powder coating to prevent corrosion
(2) Inner cleanness can meet the requirement of R134a and CFC cooling system
(3) Can satisfy the cooling capability requirements of the designed refrigerator.
NotationMax dimension: width 376mm, length 430mm.



R34a cooling system Tube inside standard
Liner measure≤0.004L
Verticality≤0.0047B2
Residual moisture≤5mg/100cm3
Residual impurity≤10mg/100cm3
Residual mineral oil≤100mg/100cm3
Residual chlorine≤5vloppm
Residual paraffin≤3mg/m2
Biggest single impurity0.5mm



Specification of coating
Coating thicknessthickness of coating40 90 μ m
Hardness of coating≥2H
Impact of coating50cm?kg/cm impact, no crack
Adhesion of coating≥two grade
Flexibility of coatingAround R=3D bend 180?, no crack or no fall off
Color tolerance of powder
paintingE≤1.5




As one of the leading single tube with capillary aluminum refrigerator roll bond evaporator for egypt market manufacturers in China, Ningzheng Aluminum warmly welcomes you to buy and wholesale our quality products made in China. We now have many products in stock. Welcome to get the free sample with us. And the price and quotation consultation are also available.


Cerificate:

competitive advantage:
1. We have high engineers and quality controller in my factory, so its product quality is well guaranteed.
2. Professional manufacturer
3. Stable quality and Fair price
4. Delivery fast time
5. According to customers' requirements
6. Taking "satisfy the clients and win the market" as its core management principle, the company constantly expanded the market.
7. Warmly welcome clients to visit our factory and guidance



About samples
We can provide samples production and service. Usually 4 to 7 days, the sample can be sent to your hands. We will choose the shipping way as you required: by sea,by air,by express ect. Any question about samples, please contact us.
About delivery and shipping
We will choose the delivery way as you required: by sea,by air,by express ect. Save your cost is our mission.Gradevin roll bond evaporator
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  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:16 PM EST


Overview:
Ball Valve is not only own with the functions of opening quickly, easy to maintain, good sealing but also safety fire-safe and Antistatic designs. Lung Yun manufactures designs various kinds of ball valves for one-piece, two-piece, three-piece, thread end, socket weld end, butt weld end, flange type, full port, reduce port. The selection of ball valve material includes stainless steel, carbon steel, and cast iron. The working pressure from 1000 psi to 6000 psi application of you chose. Designs of different sealing are as client's requirement. Chose the suitable ball valve to use in piping system, Nai Bang is the best supplier.

Design Features:
» Full port or reduced bore
» Resilient or Metal to Metal seat
» Fire Safe; Anti-static device
» Blow-out proof stem
» Optional locking device
» Optional stem extension
» Optional Top flange to ISO 5211

Capabilities and Ranges:
» Size Range: 1/2"-10" (DN15~DN250)
» Pressure Rating: ASME Class 150 to 600 (PN16~PN100)
» Body Material: Carbon steel, Stainless steel, Alloy steel, Duplex steel, Aluminum bronze
» Ends Connections: FLG R.F or R.TJ; Weld B.W or S.W; Thread NPT or BSPT
» Operation: Manually Lever or Gear; Electric, Pneumatic or HydraulicBall Valve China
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  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:16 PM EST
Our History


Suzhou Hong Jin Li Gas Equipment Co., Ltd. is headquartered in the Jiangnan region of rivers and lakes of Suzhou, is a company engaged in air separation nitrogen, hydrogen, oxygen and equipment research and development, manufacturing and related technology consulting services of high-tech enterprises.
The company brings together senior professional and technical elite machinery, electrical appliances, gas technology and many other collaboration, efficient, and hired Dr. many industry experts as consultants, has strong ability of integrated product development. Also has a rich experience, high level of professional design, production, after sale service team. And has formed three level management system of R & D, manufacturing and service.
Accumulate steadily based on imported equipment absorbing advanced technology of similar, full range, launched the PSA nitrogen making machine, nitrogen purification device, ammonia decomposition hydrogen furnace device, hydrogen purification device, oxygen generator, hydrogen nitrogen ratio equipment and various non-standard gas device. And with advanced technology, high-quality parts and strict quality and technology standard production equipment, to provide products and services customer satisfaction.
Products covering a wide range, excellent performance, high efficiency and energy saving, flexible control, convenient operation; widely used in electronics, metallurgy, machinery, automobile manufacturing, petrochemical, chemical, light industry, food, medicine, biology, injection molding, foam products industry; plays an important role in the national key project.
Our Factory
The company is headquartered in Suzhou, China, the production area of 2,000 square meters, with production workshop, testing equipment, debugging equipment, warehouses, offices, the annual production capacity of more than 200 sets in Shenzhen, Penang has a branch.
Our Product
Mainly produce nitrogen generator, oxygen generator, ammonia decomposition hydrogen furnace, hydrogen and nitrogen automatic matching device, nitrogen purification device, nitrogen purity 95% -99.9999%, nitrogen pressure 0.6Mpa-20Mpa, oxygen purity 93% -99.5% , Oxygen pressure 0.6Mpa-20Mpa.
Product Application
Our products are used for: electronics industry SMT, laser cutting, petroleum and petrochemical, food industry, steel industry, powder metallurgy industry, coal industry, pharmaceutical industry, ship and all need anti-oxidation technology,
Our Certificate
ISO9001:2008、ROHS



Production Equipment
Argon arc welding machine, Gas welding machine, welding machine, CNC plasma cutting machine, welding machine, bending machine, air compressor, drilling machine, trace oxygen tester, dew point tester,
Production Market
Sold to the world, such as: Indonesia PT, Vietnam, Malaysia, Turkey Pakistan, Thailand, Russia, Taiwan, Hong Kong, and other countries and regions.
Our service
Pre-sale: We have a professional team to provide customers with professional programs and quotes, and design drawings and customers perfect communication.
Sale: we at any time to communicate with the customer equipment production progress, and product quality control, to ensure timely delivery by volume.
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  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:17 PM EST
folding baby bath changing table


Jiaxing Selak Sanitary Wares Technology Co.,Ltd is folding baby bath changing table manufacturers and suppliers, welcome to wholesale cheap baby changing and bath station-mg5502, bath and changing station from our factory.
Product: Baby Changing and Bath Station
Brand: Nami • Mengpo
Model: MG5502 (white),
folding baby bath changing table
Description:

- Multifunctional uses as changing table and bathtub.
- It can be easily wheeled to anywhere convenient in your home.
- The height of the bath makes it easy to bath the baby in a standing position.

Components:
1. changing pad
2. bathtub
3. storage baskets
4. drain tube
5. storage trays
6. locking casters

Soft changing pad is water-proof and easy to clean, with PVC cover and sponge inside.
*Notice: Please lift up the changing pad first and then put it down.  

Ergonomically designed bathtub allows the baby to recline while bathing, and is perfect for parents to bath the baby in a standing position.

A long drain tube allows the bath to be easily drained without lifting the bath. Length of tube: 97cm.

A locking device of the pad prevents the changing pad from falling down.

Storage baskets and shelves for easy access to different bathing necessities, such as shampoo, soap, toys, towels, clothes, diapers, etc.

Locking wheels at the bottom ensures stability and mobility when needed.Baby bath and changing table combo suppliers
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  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:17 PM EST
Size:3 feet by 5 feet

Print method:sublimation printing
Packing:1pc/poly bag
Colour fastnesee:level 4+


Designs are through-printed and visible on both sides
Bright, fade-resistant inks
Deluxe quality colors/graphics
Double stitched edges all around
Reinforced grommet holes with brass grommets
Attaches easily to any flag pole with grommets
Light weight lets flags fly well even in light breeze
Excellent for events, indoor display and personal use


These advertising flags are a great cost effective way to draw attention to your place of business. The colorful designs will make your location or event stand out in the crowd. This is a custom printed flag.
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  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:17 PM EST
We are a leading manufacturer & supplier of Energy Saving Vertical Rubber Injection Molding Machine in China, with Taiwan And Germany Technology.
Introduction To Vertical Rubber Injection Molding Machine
FEATURES:
◆Mechanics design
All components are mounted on a single base.Great attention to surface finishing presents a machine that is fine in appearance as well as dependable in production.
◆Material supply system
A special design of two-stages material supply is employed. It expels bubble out of the raw material in the most effective way and there is no dead material left in the injection sysem.
◆Injection volume control
A design incorporating a high precision optical ruler,makes in Germany,is adopted.The injection volume can be calculated and controlled precisely.
◆Cool runner technology
Together with water cooling system for mold temperature control unit which avoid any deadlock of material and reduce waste of material.
◆Vacuum mold design
Installed with wacuum pump provides vacuum function for the mold so as to obtain high quality assurance and increase yield rate.
◆Safety design
A light curtain,made in Japan,is available.An automatic warning system is available.It monitors the status of machine in order to provide extra protection to assurs the operation safety for operators.
◆Hydraulic system design
A full-scale oil system is adopted.The noise is low and the pressure is adjusted automatically and proportionally.It is very accurate and stable.
SUITABLE FOR:
Nature Rubber
Synthetic Rubber
Like: NBR/ EPDM /CR /SBR/ FBR/ IR/ SOLID SILICON RUBBER
APPLICATION:
Polygin, polyhedron,and other complicated products. Especially in sports, medical,automobile,and
electrical applications.
SPECIFICATION OF VERTICAL RUBBER INECTION MOLDING MACHINE
TypeUnit250Ton300Ton350Ton400Ton
Injection Ram Dia.mm75759095
Injection PressureKgf/cm21750175017501750
Max.Injection Ratecc/s55557097
Theory Injection Volumecc1500150030004000
Screw Dia.mm40404545
Screw Speedrpm0-700-700-1100-145
Clamping ForceKN2000250030004000
Mould Opening Strokemm380500550550
Daylight of Heater Platenmm550500-600550-650550-650
Net Column Spacingmm690×300725×400745×280840×390
Heater Platen Dimensionmm600×550600×600650×600700×700
Motor PowerKW11111518.5
Heater Plate PowerKW16171824
Vacuum Pump Power
(Option)KW1111
Temperature Controllder Power
(Option)KW6666
System PressureKgf/cm2200200200200
Machine weightton78910.5
Machine sizem2.9×1.85×3.753.3×2×43.15×2.2×4.853.5×2.5×5.3Vertical Injection Moulding Machine price
website:http://www.no1rubbermach.com/rubber-injection-moulding-machines/vertical-rubber-injection-moulding-machine/
  • Posted Mon 20 Nov 2017 09:17 PM EST

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